Former tomgirl here. I’m so incredibly thankful I was able to grow up and just be who I was. Climbing trees. Helping my neighbor train their oxen. (Their last name was literally Hicks, sets the tone for growing up in the middle of nowhere) . I was the stereotypical tomgirl at 10. At 41? Omg I love being a woman. I love my femininity. I’m so glad I was able to just be who I was with no pressure to be something I wasn’t. I arrived where I’m at on my own. We are not giving the kids the space they need to figure out who they are. LET THEM BE KIDS. Thank you for speaking up. I know it probably comes with some level of personal cost, but it needs to be said.
Well despite being 1 of only 3 people commenting here, I’m happy to see the reach of a washed out previously-famous & formerly-closeted conservative is even quite a bit lower than I would have expected.
But, uh… yeah, in between the nonsensical rambling I feel I’ve gathered the points you intended here. And they’re just very basic and uncomplicated. It sounds like you appreciate, value, live in, and solely acknowledge the primal and animalistic parts of our brain without actually stopping to consider nuance and logic, the things that make us human.
Trans people existed before social media. Trans people grow up in Christian two parent households and in churches. Trans people are not just Trans because social media told them to be, or because a nurturing teacher finally allowed them the comfort of letting their guard down to let the child EXIST without the threat of judgement they feel from all elsewhere. Your simplification of trans people to “men who chop off their penises to get closer to women they wish to abuse” doesn’t even make logical sense. Plenty of men who want to rape women go into women’s space, penis fully intact, and commit their crimes. Surely there’s no reason to be removing appendages and organs if that is their only intent. But you don’t see that or care about that because it doesn’t tickle the animalistic bravado part of your brain that so many men these days feel drawn to double down on, since there’s some idea that masculinity is under threat now that white men aren’t able to subjugate women and minorities in the same way they used to. Yawn.
I’ve got no issue with how people choose to live — genuinely. If someone feels more themselves living a different way, then good for them. I believe in live and let live.
But let’s not pretend this endless gender discourse isn’t confusing the life out of kids.
Half of them don’t know what day it is, but we’re asking them to define their identity before they’ve even figured out long division.
It’s not hate to say, “Maybe we’re overcomplicating things.” It’s just common sense.
Because when we treat identity like a buffet — pick what you fancy, come back later if you change your mind — we’re not empowering kids. We’re overwhelming them.
And while adults can make whatever choices suit them, children need time, clarity, and actual parenting — not a PowerPoint presentation on pronouns before phonics.
Also — and I know this won’t sit well with everyone — no grown man, regardless of how he identifies, belongs in a women’s bathroom.
That’s not hate. That’s protection, boundaries, and basic sense.
You can respect people’s choices without pretending that everyone else’s comfort and safety no longer matters.
Regarding Cam…
I see is a man who’s still here, still creating, raising his kids, and speaking up when it would be easier to stay quiet.
He’s not chasing fame. He’s not begging for applause.
He never has been about the spotlight — and that humility is exactly why his words hit harder than most.
That doesn’t look like “washed up” to me.
That looks like strength, character, and a backbone — something in short supply these days.
So yes, be who you want to be. I’ll respect that.
But don’t act like it’s harmless to saturate children in identity confusion and then feign shock when they’re lost, anxious, or overwhelmed.
Let’s support everyone — absolutely.
But let’s not forget the basics:
Kids need stability, not a bloody identity crisis before breakfast.
And women deserve a loo they can use without worrying who’ll walk in behind them.
Who’s asking kids to “define their gender”? Are you? That’s weird af. Also, why are you so scared to walk into the ladies room? Please do tell what happened to you in a public bathroom? Bad experience? Any stats to show that you should be worried about a trans woman? What crimes have they committed? You tried real hard to sugar coat your hate, but that sugar melted real fast the more you talked…and that was a lot girl. Thumbs need a break.
You’ve taken what I said, twisted it, and made a lot of assumptions — none of which reflect the actual post.
I didn’t express fear, hatred, or blame. I raised concerns about kids being confused by messaging that keeps changing, and about women’s spaces being protected — which is a reasonable boundary, not bigotry.
If you think that’s hate, maybe you need to look at why respectful disagreement feels so threatening to you.
We’re not going to agree, clearly — but at least I don’t need to resort to insults or mockery to make a point.
No need to feel insulted or mocked. Sounds like you’re saying a personal conversation should happen between parent and child when mixed messaging happens in the world, and not a political oppressive movement. Just wondering why this topic - of all the political bating/intentional distractions going on out there now - why this one seems to push people’s buttons in such an extreme way. But I would love to know your answers to my specific questions…
And yes — I absolutely believe these conversations belong between parents and children, not in the middle of identity trends and political noise that kids can’t make sense of yet.
As for why this topic pushes buttons? For me, it’s personal. I’ve had an experience in a public toilet that permanently shifted how I view vulnerable spaces. I’m not a victim — I’m someone with boundaries, shaped by real life, not fear-mongering.
So no, I’m not scared of trans people, and no, I don’t think they’re inherently dangerous. But I do believe policies around self-ID — especially when it comes to access to women’s spaces — deserve scrutiny, because they’re open to abuse. And those cases aren’t hypothetical.
On the kids: I’m not asking them to define their gender. But the current environment — in some schools, online spaces, and youth platforms — introduces identity concepts far earlier than children are ready to process. That’s not protecting them. It’s confusing them.
I’ll always support anyone living in a way that feels authentic to them. But I’ll also speak up when something feels unbalanced — and I won’t pretend that asking for caution equals hate.
I gotcha. So now I’m wondering if you read the post by “this is not cam” at all. Because what you’re saying isn’t necessarily aligned. But that’s fine, I can respect what you’re saying and your boundaries. Just know that everyone else has boundaries that should be respected, too.
I did read it, and I can absolutely respect where it was coming from — even if my own views aren’t fully aligned.
I appreciate you taking the time to read my side, too. I agree that everyone’s boundaries matter, and that’s really all I’ve been trying to say from the start.
Oh look, another MAGA culture warrior looking for his very own echo chamber.
Better late than never, looks like you took the hint. But, quick question: Are you trying to be persuasive? Seems like you tried really hard and invested a lot of time in writing this, only to regurgitate the same ol’ talking points you heard on Candace Owens’ YouTube.
Perhaps some originality, like, I dunno, a new perspective, or (Jesus forbid!) give some statistical proof on the assertion you’re failing at making. That might score you the attention you’re craving.
All the cutesy, gimmicky crap is just sad, honestly. But hey, if you just want a digital room full of sheep, maybe this Substack “gig” ain’t for you.
100% Agree. All of us had adjustment difficulties discovering who we were. I am ever grateful that during those times I wasn't exposed to some warped zealot planting seeds of Transgenderism, if that's even a word. Glad to have my member too, and glad to have never been exposed to such thinking.
Former tomgirl here. I’m so incredibly thankful I was able to grow up and just be who I was. Climbing trees. Helping my neighbor train their oxen. (Their last name was literally Hicks, sets the tone for growing up in the middle of nowhere) . I was the stereotypical tomgirl at 10. At 41? Omg I love being a woman. I love my femininity. I’m so glad I was able to just be who I was with no pressure to be something I wasn’t. I arrived where I’m at on my own. We are not giving the kids the space they need to figure out who they are. LET THEM BE KIDS. Thank you for speaking up. I know it probably comes with some level of personal cost, but it needs to be said.
Your tomboy ways have nothing to do with civil rights. Rethink that response and come up with something more provocative.
Well despite being 1 of only 3 people commenting here, I’m happy to see the reach of a washed out previously-famous & formerly-closeted conservative is even quite a bit lower than I would have expected.
But, uh… yeah, in between the nonsensical rambling I feel I’ve gathered the points you intended here. And they’re just very basic and uncomplicated. It sounds like you appreciate, value, live in, and solely acknowledge the primal and animalistic parts of our brain without actually stopping to consider nuance and logic, the things that make us human.
Trans people existed before social media. Trans people grow up in Christian two parent households and in churches. Trans people are not just Trans because social media told them to be, or because a nurturing teacher finally allowed them the comfort of letting their guard down to let the child EXIST without the threat of judgement they feel from all elsewhere. Your simplification of trans people to “men who chop off their penises to get closer to women they wish to abuse” doesn’t even make logical sense. Plenty of men who want to rape women go into women’s space, penis fully intact, and commit their crimes. Surely there’s no reason to be removing appendages and organs if that is their only intent. But you don’t see that or care about that because it doesn’t tickle the animalistic bravado part of your brain that so many men these days feel drawn to double down on, since there’s some idea that masculinity is under threat now that white men aren’t able to subjugate women and minorities in the same way they used to. Yawn.
Seattle childrens is leading the pack making me shake my head at the whole deal.
I’ve got no issue with how people choose to live — genuinely. If someone feels more themselves living a different way, then good for them. I believe in live and let live.
But let’s not pretend this endless gender discourse isn’t confusing the life out of kids.
Half of them don’t know what day it is, but we’re asking them to define their identity before they’ve even figured out long division.
It’s not hate to say, “Maybe we’re overcomplicating things.” It’s just common sense.
Because when we treat identity like a buffet — pick what you fancy, come back later if you change your mind — we’re not empowering kids. We’re overwhelming them.
And while adults can make whatever choices suit them, children need time, clarity, and actual parenting — not a PowerPoint presentation on pronouns before phonics.
Also — and I know this won’t sit well with everyone — no grown man, regardless of how he identifies, belongs in a women’s bathroom.
That’s not hate. That’s protection, boundaries, and basic sense.
You can respect people’s choices without pretending that everyone else’s comfort and safety no longer matters.
Regarding Cam…
I see is a man who’s still here, still creating, raising his kids, and speaking up when it would be easier to stay quiet.
He’s not chasing fame. He’s not begging for applause.
He never has been about the spotlight — and that humility is exactly why his words hit harder than most.
That doesn’t look like “washed up” to me.
That looks like strength, character, and a backbone — something in short supply these days.
So yes, be who you want to be. I’ll respect that.
But don’t act like it’s harmless to saturate children in identity confusion and then feign shock when they’re lost, anxious, or overwhelmed.
Let’s support everyone — absolutely.
But let’s not forget the basics:
Kids need stability, not a bloody identity crisis before breakfast.
And women deserve a loo they can use without worrying who’ll walk in behind them.
Who’s asking kids to “define their gender”? Are you? That’s weird af. Also, why are you so scared to walk into the ladies room? Please do tell what happened to you in a public bathroom? Bad experience? Any stats to show that you should be worried about a trans woman? What crimes have they committed? You tried real hard to sugar coat your hate, but that sugar melted real fast the more you talked…and that was a lot girl. Thumbs need a break.
You’ve taken what I said, twisted it, and made a lot of assumptions — none of which reflect the actual post.
I didn’t express fear, hatred, or blame. I raised concerns about kids being confused by messaging that keeps changing, and about women’s spaces being protected — which is a reasonable boundary, not bigotry.
If you think that’s hate, maybe you need to look at why respectful disagreement feels so threatening to you.
We’re not going to agree, clearly — but at least I don’t need to resort to insults or mockery to make a point.
Thank you. I appreciate your answers, and I thank you for your respectful tone. Truly, I do.
No need to feel insulted or mocked. Sounds like you’re saying a personal conversation should happen between parent and child when mixed messaging happens in the world, and not a political oppressive movement. Just wondering why this topic - of all the political bating/intentional distractions going on out there now - why this one seems to push people’s buttons in such an extreme way. But I would love to know your answers to my specific questions…
Appreciate the more measured tone.
And yes — I absolutely believe these conversations belong between parents and children, not in the middle of identity trends and political noise that kids can’t make sense of yet.
As for why this topic pushes buttons? For me, it’s personal. I’ve had an experience in a public toilet that permanently shifted how I view vulnerable spaces. I’m not a victim — I’m someone with boundaries, shaped by real life, not fear-mongering.
So no, I’m not scared of trans people, and no, I don’t think they’re inherently dangerous. But I do believe policies around self-ID — especially when it comes to access to women’s spaces — deserve scrutiny, because they’re open to abuse. And those cases aren’t hypothetical.
On the kids: I’m not asking them to define their gender. But the current environment — in some schools, online spaces, and youth platforms — introduces identity concepts far earlier than children are ready to process. That’s not protecting them. It’s confusing them.
I’ll always support anyone living in a way that feels authentic to them. But I’ll also speak up when something feels unbalanced — and I won’t pretend that asking for caution equals hate.
I gotcha. So now I’m wondering if you read the post by “this is not cam” at all. Because what you’re saying isn’t necessarily aligned. But that’s fine, I can respect what you’re saying and your boundaries. Just know that everyone else has boundaries that should be respected, too.
I did read it, and I can absolutely respect where it was coming from — even if my own views aren’t fully aligned.
I appreciate you taking the time to read my side, too. I agree that everyone’s boundaries matter, and that’s really all I’ve been trying to say from the start.
Oh look, another MAGA culture warrior looking for his very own echo chamber.
Better late than never, looks like you took the hint. But, quick question: Are you trying to be persuasive? Seems like you tried really hard and invested a lot of time in writing this, only to regurgitate the same ol’ talking points you heard on Candace Owens’ YouTube.
Perhaps some originality, like, I dunno, a new perspective, or (Jesus forbid!) give some statistical proof on the assertion you’re failing at making. That might score you the attention you’re craving.
All the cutesy, gimmicky crap is just sad, honestly. But hey, if you just want a digital room full of sheep, maybe this Substack “gig” ain’t for you.
I hate that I am so late seeing this, but I am so glad to see men standing up and speaking out. I also love how you write! Keeps me interested!
100% Agree. All of us had adjustment difficulties discovering who we were. I am ever grateful that during those times I wasn't exposed to some warped zealot planting seeds of Transgenderism, if that's even a word. Glad to have my member too, and glad to have never been exposed to such thinking.
Happy to see more people (especially those with a larger following) speaking on this.
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